What it feels like to become a mother

I had forgotten what it was like to give birth to a child, how much it hurts, and how beautiful, intense and profound the experience is

I had forgotten what a baby felt like, how small, and so very fragile, cute and scary all at the same time

How afraid you are to break them every time you take them in your arms

I had forgotten how beautiful a baby is, how addictive they are, like the most powerful drug, and how a simple glance your little gem could take you to 7th heaven and back

But I had also forgotten a baby needs to be changed countless times, and you have to wake up another set of countless times, to feed, to rock, and calm your darling colic peanut

I had forgotten that a baby has only one desire: to stay safe, cuddled warmly, and loved in your arms, or on your bosom. And that sometimes the feeling is so indescribable, but sometimes your patience runs thin

I had forgotten the fatigue, the sleepless nights, the diapers to change, the baths to give, while the older children showers and dresses themselves all in good humor. While you’re left with 30 seconds, wearing the same clothes for 2 days straight

I had forgotten the incredible pleasure it is to nurse a baby, and the happiness of having finally met this baby which is connected to the memory of your beautiful round belly, that is since long gone

I had forgotten how complete as a woman you feel, how great it is to give life, how difficult it is, and how much your body and emotional well-being suffers

I had forgotten the pride of feeling accomplished in bringing life into this world, of being completely overwhelmed that you do not enjoy the moment as it passes by all too quickly. Your desire to be the most perfect of mothers but frustrated realizing that you’ve looked after your baby all.day.long

 

I had forgotten how hard it is in the morning when you wake up 4, 5, 6 times a night and you have to prepare breakfast, and drive the older kids to school, but you’re so determined to be strong that you manage to get through the day, keeping up (almost) with your daily chores and your little rug rats

Even though deep down you feel like you’re no longer yourself, and some alien has taken over your body and you were no longer in charge

You understand time is passing you, yet feel helpless because you know time waits on no man

I had forgotten the happiness that overtakes you at the sight of your little munchkin, so adorable, her tiny double chin, small fatty folds everywhere, sure signs of a healthy and thriving baby

How stressing it is when your darling little one is late in waking up for her feeding, you put your hand on her chest to make sure she’s breathing, or your ears next to her nose to hear her beautiful delicate breaths, or the many times you check to see if she’s not too hot, or too cold

 

I had forgotten the feeling of endless love, and the tears of happiness at looking at this wonder. And tearing up at every milestone big or small, when she made her first cooing sounds, when she slept when she laughed

However what I will never forget is how much my life without my babies would be empty, and how good (and sometimes so difficult) it is to be a mother

 

 

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8 comments for “What it feels like to become a mother

  1. Molly
    April 20, 2017 at 5:39 pm

    Awww how beautiful I felt reading this..it brought back so much memories of my girls.
    They are all grown now..but really! How time goes by fast, enjoy your baby now, in no time they’ll be all grown up..

    • MademoiselleFRG
      April 26, 2017 at 5:55 am

      Hi Molly,

      I am happy you enjoyed it. Thank you. Though my youngest is now 7 months old, I still tear up and enjoy every moment knowing that time flies way too fast! xx

  2. April 24, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    Your article brought back so many wonderful moments of motherhood. My girls are in college and out of college, I go back and those infant times were so glorious, hard, wonderful, insane, happy, frustrating but the best time of my life. I loved holding my babies and kissing them, singing to them and playing with them. Thank you for the memories!

    • MademoiselleFRG
      April 26, 2017 at 5:58 am

      Hi Linda, I am so glad you liked it. This article-poem is purely from the heart that can be related to no matter how big your babies are. My eldest father s 11 and I remember his baby days like yesterday.

  3. Justin C.
    April 24, 2017 at 1:59 pm

    I really enjoyed your post! It reminded me of how I felt holding my nieces and nephews. I felt as if they were the most fragile creatures on the planet. All I wanted to do was protect them. I like how babies make me feel. They bring me back down to earth and remind me of what is really important in life.

    Funny, how someone that has only been around for a few moments can teach someone who has been around for 28 years, something about life.

    Great post, I really enjoyed reading it 😉

    • MademoiselleFRG
      April 26, 2017 at 5:59 am

      Hi Justin, you are absolutely right. They are such precious and beautiful and fragile creatures. I heart babies.

  4. April 25, 2017 at 5:20 am

    I really enjoyed reading this post!

    I am not yet a father, but one day I hope to be and I hope to experience some of these great feelings you have described above. Babies are so gentle and kind with no jaded outlook on the world and it’s so easy to get captivated by their innocence.

    I really appreciated this, thanks so much for sharing and keep it up!

    -Dalton

    • MademoiselleFRG
      April 26, 2017 at 6:10 am

      Hi Dalton, I am so glad you like it. You’ve nailed it on your description of what babies are like. I am sure you will be a great daddy one day.

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